Are you looking for Christian relationship help to overcome jealousy? Proverbs 27:4 says: “Anger is cruel and fury overwhelming, but who can stand before jealousy? Jealousy is indeed a strong emotion that infects and affects a relationship. Jealousy can be felt toward anyone: friends, siblings, parents, spouses, co-workers, children, and others. Except the jealousy that should be felt toward someone your partner is cheating on you with, you need to deal with your jealousy and not let it infect your relationships. You can do this by using these five keys to overcoming jealousy:
1. Figure out the root. Jealousy is a feeling and behind the feeling are specific things that are triggering it. Ask yourself these questions: What are you jealous about? When is the jealousy felt? When did you first struggle with jealousy? Are you jealous in most of your relationships or just this one? How does the jealousy spill over into the relationship? James identified the root of the fighting amongst the early Christians to their jealousy over things they didn’t have and wanted. Yours may also be related to covetousness or it could be insecurity, competition, fear of loss, control, or self-pity.
2. Get a life. Jealousy is focused on something you want and don’t have or have and are fearful of losing. Keeping your focus on what you don’t have keeps you from taking responsibility to be proactive about making positive changes in your own life. Your fears over losing what you have will drive you to act in ways that will sabotage the relationship and increase the chances it won’t work. The key is to get a life. Do whatever it is you can do to move yourself toward what you truly want so you will feel better about yourself. You will be healthier and draw the person toward you rather than push him/her away.
3. Deal with your control issues. Jealousy is also related to control. It is linked to the belief that you have a right to control or judge what another person should have or do….